Inner Clarity

"When you come from a very clear place , you can use your skills from all your life experiences to best deal with any challenge at hand. " This is how Beverly Chimes opened her wisdom share with me almost 2 years ago.It was wise then and it still holds true for today. Beverly believes that understanding yourself will guide you no matter where you are or what challenges you're facing.

We appear in different roles during our days. When the present moment is the only moment of importance, then we can be truly connected as intimate partners, friends, colleagues and parents.

A great tip that Beverly offers when we transition in our days, is to take a breath. Become intentional about wanting to be in this current moment.

Life happens in the present. But so often, essential moments of life are missed because we're distracted by anxieties of the future or memories of the past that haunt us. We let the present slip away.

We're always distracting ourselves and making sure to keep busy while allowing little time to practice stillness and calm.

When we're at work, we want to be on vacation; on vacation, we worry about the work piling up on our desks. We allow our thoughts to control us. In order to feel more in control of our minds and our lives, to find the sense of balance that eludes us, we need to break the spell of doing, doing, doing and learn to rest in being.

We can live more in the moment by becoming more intentional at putting our attention and awareness on the present. When you become mindful, you become an observer of your thoughts from moment to moment without judging them. Mindfulness means being with your thoughts as they are.

Mindful people are happier,kinder and more generous with their time, energy and empathy. Being in the here and now allows people to respond to their experiences as informed by feelings rather than reacting impulsively without thinking.

Mindful couples have more satisfying relationships. They can hear negative feedback without feeling threatened. They fight less with their intimate partners and are more accommodating and less defensive.

Overriding distraction and awakening to the present takes intentionality and practice.

There are many paths to mindfulness— letting go of what you want is the only way to get it. Set the intention of paying attention to what's happening at the present moment. As you read the words on this page, as your eyes distinguish the black letters on the white paper, as you feel your body sitting in your chair right now, you are becoming aware of being alive. Breathe! Notice your intake of air and your breathing out. If you're aware of that right now, you're living in the moment. Nothing happens next. This is it. You're already there.

You can watch the whole 5 minute WISH (Wisdom Share) with Beverly Chimes on my homepage.