Some couples approach therapy hoping that the therapist will fix their "problematic" partner. Once the partner gets it and changes, all the relationship problems will be solved. Yeah right! Here's the deal! You can't change your partner and your partner can't change you. You can, however, influence each other. Becoming a kinder and more loving part...
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Changing your perspective on a situation, will change your life! This is what happened to my client O. when through sharing his challenges in coaching sessions, he was able to find clarity and calm through a new way of viewing his circumstances. You see, it's never the situation that's at fault. It's the way you choose to view it. In life, nothing ...
Deep and meaningful relationships play a vital role in overall well-being. Research has proven that people with supportive and rewarding relationships have better overall mental health. An informative perspective on thriving through relationships, emphasizes two types of support that relationships can provide. What is 'thriving'? Relationships help...
Aviva Belfer is an enhancer of possibilities. She always asks, what more can we do? She invites people to step out of their story and to see who they are. "When we buy into our stories, we close off seeing what additional possibilities are available to us." she says. "When we believe in our thoughts, when we tell ourselves a story, we suffer. 'My h...
Faced with a difficult, stressful situation, relationship-related, your default feeling may be of defeat. Sometimes we give up the minute we see a hurdle in our path. The message is emphatically you can't ever be good enough. How can you confront and find ways of solving problems instead of always seeing them as insurmountable obstructions to any f...
When speaking to Gila Green about her author journey I was inspired by her deep seated belief in her "inner compass" that has "directed" and guided her to produce several poignantly written and published books. Her journey was navigated by knowing clearly what her destination was. She knew what she wanted and began taking the necessary steps to get...
Living intentionally requires clarity. When you are clear about what makes you happy, healthy, loving and fabulous, you become happy, healthy, loving and fabulous. When S. worked with me she expressed that becoming clear on what really mattered to her and getting rid of what really didn't, made her life a lot easier. Becoming clearer requires...
"When you come from a very clear place , you can use your skills from all your life experiences to best deal with any challenge at hand. " This is how Beverly Chimes opened her wisdom share with me almost 2 years ago.It was wise then and it still holds true for today. Beverly believes that understanding yourself will guide you no matter where you a...
Being kind is an interpersonal skill that strengthens your relationships and sense of satisfaction with life. "Bev being kind, friendly, generous, and considerate in our sessions, demonstrated the powerful impact of courage and strength." This is how S. experienced our work together. Science has shown that devoting resources to others, rather...
"Listening to your body is a link in the chain of change and healing." These are wise words offered to me in my WiSh (Wisdom Share) Series with Bev Liebson about the power of taking the time to notice what we feel in our bodies. So much of the time the answers to our health challenges are within, but we don't always know how to read the signs and r...
Finding her purpose was more than just a cliché for my client T. When we began working together she was determined to live a happier, healthier and more meaningful life. Why Do You Need a Sense of Purpose? Feeling like what you do is worthwhile is directly connected to longevity and well-being. With all of the benefits, it's clear that it's i...
Helping others believe in themselves helps us notice the many qualities they have which can help them attain their goals as well as invite them to work together with us to help us attain ours. Theodore Roosevelt said, "Believe you can, and you are halfway there." Very often that belief comes from a supportive circle of family and friends. We are wi...
Creating the life you want to live is a journey, an adventure, and completely possible. Take action to create a beautiful life aligned with your true self. Stacie Walker put it to me so beautifully, "You don't only have to do it one way. It must match your vision, your mission and your personality. It must feel good for you." When you're aligned wi...
I'm excited to share a really powerful conversation I had with Ralph Brogden about "building the business you want so that you can live the life you want." I think this message is as relevant now as it was when we spoke over a year ago. Ralph expresses himself so clearly and obviously walks his talk when it comes to his teachings. He is a mas...
Compassionate listening validates the other person and acknowledges their pain. Respect that the pain that your friend/client is experiencing is real to them, even if you don't understand it or it seems inconsequential to you. You don't need to understand the experience, but you can feel… Hold the feeling of being non-judgmental even if you d...
Clutter can impact the depth of your relationships. It's harder to be present, stay attentive and interpret feelings when your visual surroundings are filled with random stimuli. "Chaos and overwhelm. Everything around me is just too much." These are words Lisa hears all too often from her stressed and confused clients. Lisa helps her clients...
In one of our sessions together, S. asked me if she should do something she's passionate about or something she's just good at. I believe it can be both and. The magic happens when you figure out a way to align your purpose, your passions and your talents. My purpose is to inspire people to create positive and healthy relationships. My core p...
In my WiSh (Wisdom Share) series with Patricia Brooks, she shared with us two catalysts for building courage. Get into action and shift your perception When you see yourself differently, you start to behave differently and create new habits. Patricia suggests you set a meaningful goal based on your core beliefs. In other words, turn your "I should ...
"Our bodies have so much to tell us. Are we listening in order to allow our dreams to manifest?" This is one of the biggest lessons that Tansy Rodgers has learned while on her journey to making her dreams come true. We grow and expand at the edge of our comfort zone. That needs a strong mental state together with a healthy body. You might wan...
"An outstanding love doesn't come from two half-fulfilled people coming together to make one whole, complete life. Outstanding love comes from two whole people coming together to share and enhance their already full and beautiful lives." ~Pia Scade My client L recognized that it can be difficult to be in a relationship without self-love. Often the ...