"We all have challenges in our lives and we all have a purpose".these are lines from a conversation I had with Sheron Burks-Silvera. Sheron shares, that we all have a purpose! And if you can discover what you're really passionate about and can monetize that, then you'll be living a life of joy. Sheron helps people who want to move away from w...
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"Reacting is action before feeling, responding is action informed by feeling." These are wise words shared by my mentor and teacher Thomas Hubl. What exactly does this mean and how did this work out for my client D when wanting to end an intimate relationship? When we react to our world, we have been triggered and a younger part of us is beha...
Sometimes people say, they don't have enough money to live a life that matters to them. When talking to Suzy Kahati, she pointed out that money means many things for people. It can mean freedom, security, stability,stress, tension, ignorance and much more. What is common to everyone for sure, is that how they feel about money manifests in the...
If you were on a journey and you got a flat tire, would you see that as a sign that you were supposed to turn back, or would you fix the tire and continue on? When something doesn't go the way we had planned, it's an opportunity to stop and realign yourself and reassess where you're going. Recently, my client M. said to me "Even though I went...
Sean Douglas has created a successful life by living by this statement, "Say YES, then figure it out!" Sometimes we need to first make a commitment and then take a leap of faith. When you say, no, you close yourself off to new opportunities and possibilities. When you say YES, it opens your mind to receive new information. This is known as a growth...
When our beautiful and more painful parts are compassionately listened to then time spent together offers a "safe space where I was able to truly open up and share." These are words spoken to me by my client M. who felt that by being listened to in an accepting and nonjudgmental way, she was ultimately able to begin healing through self-reflection....
In conversation with Yvonne St. Louis, when you own your value you see your worth and what gifts you have to share in this world. Recognizing your worth impacts the quality of the relationships you create, as an intimate partner, friend, colleague and parent. Yvonne believes that this is not about seeking external goals as much as about relea...
This quote jumped out at me when J, a client who attended one of my recent workshops, said she was given "new ways to approach ongoing issues. " When you feel part of a group,that you really belong, then the wisdom, support and compassion of peers allows you to explore your challenges in a safe environment. When you feel safe and trusting, yo...
"The goals that people usually set are meant to bring them more than the actual experience of the goal". What does this mean? Ivan explains that behind the desire for, a new life partner, a new job, a more meaningful life, is an emotion which is unfulfilled. Your goals become a reality when you identify and understand your "why". Here are a few imp...
We are designed to live together, create together, to support one another and share our intelligences in order to become who we are supposed to become in this world. My client R. said it so well when she reflected on our coaching sessions " in this supportive and compassionate relationship, the knot of my jumbled thoughts is significantly les...
I recently revisited a conversation I had with Adrienne Sholzberg. Adrienne was invited to attend an opening ceremony of a renovated synagogue in Tel Aviv. The story that she heard there inspired a beautiful and clear metaphor about hope, rebuilding and new possibilities. The old synagogue had been abandoned, forgotten, locked up never to see the l...
Uncertainty is the unknown. Curiosity and exploration of the unknown are enabled by a feeling of safety, security and connection. How safe we feel in the world will impact on how we show up and what we create as a legacy. While recently coaching R., she expressed to me that the feeling of safety she feels in our sessions has given her so much more ...
While so many people are expressing their feelings of fears to me at this particular time, I am reminded of a conversation I had with Balasz Nyiri about 2 kinds of fear. There is, what Balasz refers to, as the evolutionary role of fear. This fear impacts our survival. So people who live in forests will learn which berries are poisonous and could ki...
There may be timeswhen the way you're communicating with your child, may be causing a shut-down! So often I hear parents saying "My kids never tell me anything. They give me one word answers to my questions, roll their eyes and make it quite clear that they don't want to talk to me." Sometimes your child may be tired, hungry or out of sorts a...
It doesn't have to take threats, nagging, bribes or one minute reminders to get our kids to complete their tasks and to follow through on their promises and responsibilities. Many parents can see that "because I said so, I'm the Mom ", just doesn't work! So how can we encourage our children to cooperate, without losing our cool? Here are 3 t...
We'd like our children to learn from their mistakes. So, very often, we send them to the "naughty" corner or up to their room to "think about what they've done." But, they don't! In fact, they keep doing the same thing despite the punishment. So how should we discipline our children? Punishment can lead to power struggles. Usually we think o...
"One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is to teach them how to turn worry into action." Our minds are amazing and incredibly powerful. They can help us create wonderful things…while they can also torture us! The perfect example is worrying. We all know what that is right? It's a normal part of who we are. Worry is when we have th...
This is the third video following on from the article on How to Move your Relationship with your Teenager from Miserable to Happy. This time it's all about your tiredness! Enjoy!
This is the second video following on from the article on How to Move your Relationship with your Teenager from Miserable to Happy. This time it's all about the great greeting. Enjoy!
So many parents of teenage children ask me how they can make their relationship with their child go from miserable to happy? So many parents reach a point in their relationship with a child that they think they'll never have the loving relationship that they once had when the child was very young. Time has a wonderful way of showing us what really ...